'Why do teenagers think we owe them something?' Your Kids  

Theresa (63.176.159.51) -

Why is it that children today think they are entitled to everything they desire without having to work for anything?

Will it ever go back to kids having to work for anything they want like it was in the old days when they had to get up at the crack of dawn and work on the farm or whatever profession their parents participated in to help out for the good of the family?

Today, kids just want us to hand them their allowance, along with an iPod, iPhone, computer so they can use My Space, cell phone, and whatever else is the current hot item of the day.

Then you ask them to take out the trash and they refuse?!

Comment #1 Jim (63.176.159.189) -

Because their parents gave them everything they needed... just think how their attitude might be different if they went hungry because they didn't help out! Ask your grandparents or their parents about life in the "Great Depression".

When you can take life for granted, you do!

Give your kids a bottle of water, a tin cup and send them out to sit on the street all day and see if they can get enough money to buy a burger at McDonalds.

Comment #2 hotmom-ma (63.176.159.224) -

"Why is it that children today think they are entitled to everything they desire without having to work for anything?" - Elementary my dear Theresa, because you allow them to be.

Somewhere along the way, whether you like it or not, you made a mistake on raising your children. How am I able to say this? Because of the instances or example you gave here, they ask for technology and you provide it for them, you tolerate their rudeness. This is why I guess Asian children grows a lot better than the American kids because of discipline. Children are spank but not that hard or abusive, just to teach them a lesson which later they eventually understands (as they grows up). This is what I do with my kids, and you may think bad of me but I am sticking with my Asian upbringing for it keeps your children grounded and more disciplined.

Comment #3 Eddie from Misoula -

For example you gave your kids cheap plastic toys made in China to chew on and pass their younger years... instead you could have bought them a sewing machine and they could have developed a skill, sense of accomplishment and responsibility!

Comment #4 Dr. Flinch (63.176.159.32) -

I think the problem is on the parents. If can't enforce discipline to their kids the tendency is the that the children will be spoiled and will go to what they want which most of times don't give good results.

Some of the parent these days experienced what it is like to work younger for the sake of the family, like having chores in their farms, they don't want their kids to experience the same but they overdoing it in the process.

Comment #5 Jim (63.176.159.75) -

The "board of education" needs to be revived in the USA... a few bruises are a good way to keep the little monsters in line.

Comment #6 Danny (63.176.159.51) -

To many parents let their kids do what they want. When try tell them do to something the kids say no or yell at them.. not cool.

Make your kids listen to you!

Comment #7 David from Behind You -

I have just realized this morning how bad I have been to my parents. For the longest time I thought I have made them proud with my achievements, but only to find out all I have worked for are now gone. This is what I get by not listening to them and not taking their pieces of advice.

Comment #8 Ghie Guevara (63.176.159.230) -

I somewhat agree with Jim's statement that "a few bruises are a good way to keep the little monsters in line", but don't over do it. In some Asian countries, specifically the Philippines it is alright to discipline their children by spanking or gently hitting them. My cousin who married a Filipina implemented this kind of disciplining their son and eventually the boy whose now 13 is grounded and is a well-behaved boy. So it is effective.

Comment #9 David with the Star (63.176.159.105) -

I don't agree with Jim's Idea of a few bruises I think what parents should do to successfully establish a perfect line of communication and relationship with their child. That way they don't have to use brute force or even shout at them 'cause the kids will simply listen to what they say. Respect is the key to all of this. If your child learns respect at the very beginning, there won't be a problem at all.

Comment #10 L.M. (203.87.201.3) -

@Ghie Guevara - I never heard about that thing you are saying - "In some Asian countries, specifically the Philippines it is alright to discipline their children by spanking or gently hitting them". LOL. That is never true. Although that sometimes happen just like in many other countries, it is NOT ALRIGHT in the Philippines to hit their children just ti discipline them. There is a law that tells exactly not to do violent disciplinary actions. It's against the law.

Comment #11 Dustin (63.176.159.230) -

I think kids try and get away with too much. When you try to yell at them or tell them no, they just argue with the parents and they let them off the hook because they don't want to deal with it. Stand up and bean adult. Make them listen and stand by your punishments.

Comment #12 Felix (63.176.159.101) -

You can enforce discipline with hurting you kids, you just have to establish a good relationship with them and you should earn their trust and respect. Having these you'll have less problems in many situation with you children. You should also be able to talk to them and keep yourself updated with the things that happens to them. I believe that parents have a very huge responsibility with their children and they also have be very careful of raising them

Comment #13 Barry (63.176.159.54) -

A little pain never hurt a kid... life is full of pain! Beat the monsters if they show no respect.

Comment #14 Anna (63.176.159.215) -

Children today who think that are entitled to everything without having to work for it is beause they were handed everything all their lives so when its time to go out and get a job and get the things they want themselves they see and learn the value of a dollar.

Comment #15 Claire (63.176.159.250) -

To L.M.

What is your stand on how to discipline children and keep them grounded? I also believed that violence against children are against the law but how about violence against parents by their children? I think a controlled "spank" (not in any vital or critical parts of the body) on the butt or hand, followed up by a reminder should do it, but never use strong force and hard objects. Try not to frequently spank your young ones because they might developed a resistance from it :))

Comment #16 Proud Parent Diane (63.176.159.138) -

I think that it is the way a parent raises teir child to make tem that way.

Comment #17 L.M. (203.87.201.3) -

@Claire - I'm fine with the statement given aside from the word ALRIGHT. Using such word brings the thought that "hitting kids is ALRIGHT in the Philippines". We do not encourage hitting kids as a form of discipline. Of course, some do hit kids as a form of their disciplinary actions but it is not alright. As much as possible, peaceful communication with your kids is what we encourage people to do. There are a lot of ways to discipline kids without the need to hit them, and there is no such thing as "gently" hitting a kid. A gentle hit will mark the same strength as a strong hit for a kid's mind.

Comment #18 Carl Robertson (63.176.159.158) -

I agree with L.M. here. It is never "ALRIGHT" to "spank" or "hit" a child. I believe the only time you result to such disciplinary acts is when they are acting up so bratty and overpowering that they will not listen to you anymore. Guess that "is" the only time you'll be licensed to do that but of course try to convey it into words and persuade your young ones to follow you. Be responsible and not like a tyrant on those movies who whips and punished their slaves for not working.

Comment #19 Markus (63.176.159.208) -

It is the way that a parent raises there kid that makes them think that way.

Comment #20 Sam (63.176.159.159) -

Teens go through a lot of changes physically, mentally, and emotionally. Maybe their just confused about things that which are happening in their lives. But if they have a good relationship with their parents, these thing won't be a problem.

Comment #21 Chelsea (63.176.159.62) -

Sorry to disappoint all of you people but some kids do work for everything they have. Think of the kids that have crack head parents and are going to college because they worked to get where they are. I know there are a lot of spoiled brats everywhere who are not expected to take responsibility for there actions but there are also a lot of teenagers to work for what they get. You people need to think about that.

Comment #22 Bim (63.176.159.18) -

So you are saying that because some kids actually have to work hard because they are growing up in difficult circumstances... it justifies other kids being spoiled brats?

Comment #23 Guada (63.176.159.187) -

I agree with Bim here. As a young girl I experienced hardships in life but I never acted bratty or spoiled (well, maybe not completely true about this). Do you know why? Because my parents took care and educated me to be a well grounded individual and being respectful to elders and to my fellow men and women. Well, your point of view is welcomed here because almost everyone is against the young but you have to do better than that to get support from anti-spoiled brat complex individuals like us.

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